With and Not For Love

There is no one in this world that will ever know how to love you, except for you.  There is no one who will know you better than you do.

Once we accept ourselves. Begin to know and love ourselves as we truly are; removing those masks that portray a person others believe we should be; when we truly love our authentic self then we can do everything with love instead of for love.

It helps to observe the motivations behind why you do what you do. Check in with yourself.
Are you being kind, loving and giving because in some way you are looking to be loved in return?

We all want to be loved and appreciated.  We all want to mean something to someone else, to be that "special someone" in someone's life. To be honored and respected; All of these things you do deserve and yet not many people know how to make that happen.

It is quite simple really, but not always easy. 

The answer is to simply love and accept yourself and be true to who you are. Don't deny your authentic self.  Be who you know you already are, be who you authentically want to become because in some thinly veiled way, you are that person already.

Instead of saying, "Someday I will be this or that way, once I accomplish this or that goal or acquire this or that skill." be the person you see as your future self now. 

Let go of the shame, the blame, and the stories that don't belong to you.
When you do, you find yourself more loving, more compassionate, more accepting and more truthful with yourself and others. 


As you become more truthful with yourself, you drop the burdens placed upon you by yourself and others and allow others to drop the burdens placed upon them.
When you are comfortable with yourself, you become capable of being comfortable with others.
You find you are no longer critical of others' flaws because you know you have your own. You also have accepted that healing and growth are lifelong processes for others and yourself.
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You no longer worry about criticisms from others or about others not liking or loving you.
If you love yourself with a balanced ego, loving and accepting others becomes natural.
If you love yourself because you understand that you are a creation of and made for love from The Divine Spirit, it becomes easier to see others as a part of that same creation and worthy of love.

The concept of loving others in a healthy way comes not from total selflessness and self-sacrifice, but by being self-aware and Spirit-filled
We need to keep what is fair and good for others and ourselves in balance.
When we do things for others with love instead of for love we nourish and love our self, because we see the other and our self as an extension of the same Creator and creation.

When we do things for love, we rob our self of true nourishment and fall into control and manipulation. Simultaneously the victim and victimizer in an insane mind game of giving and taking junk love.

Instead of needing other peoples' love and approval we can instead enjoy it, Always keeping in mind, that unless those who are bestowing their love and approval, are of the sort that love and accept themselves, their love and acceptance of you may change. However, even if it does, you can remain unaffected by that change because you know, love and remain true to yourself.

Loving yourself is not selfish, narcissistic or egotistical. It is honoring to the One Spirit that loved you into being.
The One Spirit of Love that knew you were worthy of being a part of Itself. If this were not true, you simply would not be.
Love and honor the being that you are. Be gentle, loving and kind and in doing so love, gentleness and kindness will emanate from you.
Just be who you are because that is all that is required of you.
​Then realize how easy you are to love

Miriam Danielle 2011